When most of us think of Mr. Darcy, we think of Colin Firth (except for the people that think of Matthew McFayden – no comment there.)
When we girls think of MY Mr. Darcy, the image immediately comes to our minds of a ‘prince charming’, ‘knight in shining armour,’ a guy who, despite being a flawed, sinful human being will be a hero, and whom you’ll marry and live happily ever after. ;)
But I’ve been thinking: this blog is called Miss Georgiana Darcy. I even used to sign my posts, "Miss Georgiana."
If I am Georgiana, then when I talk about ‘my Mr. Darcy’, I’m actually talking about my brother.
One thing that seems to be often forgotten is the fact that great heroes don’t come ready-made and go directly to great deeds – and to marry a heroine if there happens to be one around. They live before that.
And they often have sisters.
Now, one thing about the ladies in homeschooling circles (and I am quite happily one of them) is that we talk (and think) of the great things a woman can do for her husband. Sometimes a single girl will say (or think), “I’m staying here, happy and content, blessing my parents until my prince charming (or my Mr. Darcy) comes along.
Well, it’s great to bless your parents and it’s great to do great things for your husband, but shouldn’t the brothers come in somewhere?
I think I can safely say that all those I follow and all those who follow me rather like heroes. Most of them like Mr. Darcy, too.
Some of us (and yes, that means me) have a tendency to think, “Oh, where have all the heroes gone?” And then we try to be consoled by telling ourselves that the heroes are out there somewhere, just not here. But why aren’t they here?
But I’ve said this, and I’ll say it again: heroes don’t come pre-made. They need help, encouragement, and sympathy. And they don’t need that just from parents, guy-friends, and their future wife.
They need encouragement from girls (yes, especially their sisters) too. Do you think Mr. Darcy would have been so sweet and kind, (or at least, have more opportunity to show it) without Georgiana? Think what Eleanor Tilney must have been to Henry!
And the benefit isn’t at all one-sided. Seriously thinking and encouraging people to be the type heroes are made of will encourage you to be more of a real heroine.
Now we’ve talked about Mr. Darcy and I have fulfilled my bounden duty. After all, he is the title of this post. Now I naturally revert to… what I would naturally revert to. (Bonus points to everyone who knows what I mean.)
Yes, the Blakeneys.
We all admire Marguerite for, although desperately wanting her husband to stay home and not risk his life all the time, still encouraging and supporting him. But do you think Marguerite would have been so much of a heroine if she hadn’t had practice encouraging others to be?
Keep your temper, ladies, here enters the Popularly Disliked, Armand St. Just.
I know many people don’t like Armand, and with reason. Personally, I think he had a mismade sense of values. But before his sister even married Sir Percy he was trying to be a hero, to make the world better, to reach his ideals. And Marguerite helped and encouraged him in that.
And although she struggled in coping with it at first, the reason she later accepted and supported Sir Percy’s lifework, was that she already had a mini-course in How To Be The Supportive Heroine.
Good thing to be, right? And remember, heroes and heroines grow by encouraging and being encouraged. So if you ever wonder why there aren’t more of them, the question to ask is: am I being heroic?
Nota bene 1: You might not have a brother, or you might think that your brother is already pretty amazing, like I do (although I can’t take the credit for that. :P) Just remember that as Christians, we have many ‘brothers in Christ’ and there isn’t nearly a surplus of heroes.
Nota bene 2: This post is rather one-sided, since we obviously have responsibilities towards our sisters too. There might be a post with that in the near future. (There might. If I can think of something worth saying.)Nota bene 3: If you don't know what nota bene means (I didn't until a while ago), it just means 'note well' in Latin. So note this well. :P